My last article talked about how these are uncertain times and we might feel that we have no control. We can, however, control our thoughts and our thoughts impact on our emotions, which impact on our behaviours. These then impact on our relationships with ourselves, others, food, exercise, money, etc. and our overall experience of any situation. We are able to ensure that our thoughts are positive and empowering to and for us.
Past- Present- or Future-Orientated?
Firstly, you must identify whether you are past-, present- or future-orientated. This will help you to better understand part of your thought process.
If you are past-orientated, you might be constantly nostalgic for the ‘good old days’ and wishing things were as good now as they were then. Alternatively, you might dwell and fixate on something negative that has happened in the past which you can no longer control, and this can lead to negative feelings, including depression.
On the other hand, you might always be living in the future. Now, dreaming and planning for the future and looking forward to something coming up is a good thing. For some, however, they get caught up thinking about what is going to what might happen. Again, this can lead us to feeling out of control and can cause stress and anxiety.
Some of the happiest, calmest and most productive people are those that live in the moment. We are constantly distracted nowadays with technology and a culture of wanting everything instantly. It takes some self-awareness, self-control and discipline to practice living in the moment. There’s a big movement call mindfulness at the moment, and this is what I’m talking about – living in the moment.
Living in the Moment
If you can learn to live in the moment, we can have better control over making sure our thoughts are positive. We also need to be aware of the words that we use to construct, create and then convey our thoughts. Do you use positive words to support and empower yourself?
It’s not just our thoughts that we need to keep positive and empowering. Our behaviours hugely impact on our lives. It’s our daily habits, structures and routines that need to be addressed to ensure that we are living our best life.
Quality of Life
The quality of our experiences and our lives is a sum of the thoughts that we have and the behaviours and daily habits we live with.
The quality of our lives is the sum total of what we are willing to tolerate. What are you tolerating? How is that impacting on your life?
Have a think about your daily structure/routine/habits… are they supporting you, empowering you and helping you to make the most out of your current experience and life?
Think both in terms of now, what habits are serving you and what habits are holding you back?
How to Feel Motivated
When we are motivated, we are either motivated towards or against something. So, if we think about fitness, we are either motivated against feeling unfit, uncomfortable and unhealthy, or we are motivated towards feeling fit, fabulous, energetic and looking good!
While it might be tempting to ditch the healthy eating plan, dive into the biscuits and do your exercises ‘tomorrow’, every time we do this, no matter how small the impact might seem at that moment, all of those ‘just this once’ moments stack up to a pretty heavy deficit!
Think about ‘normal’ life. Are there habits that you used to follow that you’re missing? Are there habits that you want to get rid of?
It’s all going to come down to self-discipline. What areas of your life are you able to have positive self-discipline? How can you model that behaviour and control in creating and instilling new positive habits?